[DRAMAQUEEN]

Twigz, on Feb 12 2009, 12:05 AM, said:

I forgot to add, do not seem "interested" in her, just be a friend, eventually she will gain an interest in you and look passed the friend factor, but if u keep showing interest while she's with her boyfriend she'll just see u as a friend. How exactly is her bf treating her, abusing her, using her? give me details, does he not call her, only hang out when he needs her like car? money? gas? give details. When you ask her what she sees in him what does she say? some times a girl will stay with her bf because he knows stuff he can use against her that she doesn't want people to know so, she's afraid if she breaks up with him he'll use that against her.

i know bro .. she will see it in time .. i mean a month ago she got mad at me cuz i went on a dat .. which means shes in a mode where eshe wants me there for her but when i ignore her but still be a friend we get closer... so all i gota do is play my cards right lay off a bit and play the friend game and hopefully ill get her... but like i said.. its not a game to get her its a mission to teach this fat ass chewbacca looking fuck a lesson....


i mean come on dude , this is what he has NOT done in 2 years

NO valentines.... SHE bought last years $200 room and dinner
NO anniversary gift OR EVEN A CARD
NO Xmas present this past year ( cuz he had no money) BUT he bought himself a new $800 laptop 1st week of january
she buys his gas for HIM to come see HER
he DOES NOT pay nor want her to come to his BBall games
He ditches her ( they live an hour apart fyi) when she drives to see him to go sledding or wheeling with " the boys " while she sits there ALONE


the list goes on and on guys ... wtf is she so whipped on????!!!!!

[Audiofanaticz]

hzsogood, on Feb 12 2009, 12:08 AM, said:

her with him
these make me sick

you seem like the stalker type.... obsessing over this chick you cant get cuz your buddy with her...

[James]

she must like it, in all seriousness, its been going on a long time so my previous statement of she diserves what shes getting definetely applies here

[Audiofanaticz]

^^^ true

[trainman0978]

without getting long winded, stay out of it. It is not your fight. when this girl has had enough, she will walk away. not a moment sooner. And you going and beating this guys ass could have two different results. She will either hate you for hurting him, and never speak to again, or she will thank you for doing it, and go find somebody else, and you guys will stay friends.

You can't make this girl be with you . It just does not work like that.

[DRAMAQUEEN]

precisionaudio916, on Feb 12 2009, 12:15 AM, said:

Then why you posting this...?

You ask our OP on it... and we tell you... If your not 15 then you should know what to do, And not ask

people On a Audio-Forum how to fix your Love life...

This isnt Love-Line or Dr. Phill


Edit:Not trying to come Off acting like an Asshole... Just taking what you said As replying as an asshole to my post...

dude... this aint my love life.... im not on here crying about a girl i loved and shes with another boohoo fuck that shit!!! im asking a question about what ppl would do if they see there good friend crying every fucking day about a piece of shit!!! get it right dr precisionaudio

[James]

hzsogood, on Feb 11 2009, 10:28 PM, said:

dude... this aint my love life.... im not on here crying about a girl i loved and shes with another boohoo fuck that shit!!! im asking a question about what ppl would do if they see there good friend crying every fucking day about a piece of shit!!! get it right dr precisionaudio

in reality, you are comign on here like that considering you "have feelings"

[Mikesmith0890]

Like i said in my post.. You just gotta do what you feel is right. People will bash you for doing one thing and others will bash you for doing another.. In the end it'll be up to you bro.

[DRAMAQUEEN]

Mikesmith0890, on Feb 12 2009, 12:19 AM, said:

Only info I can add is this.. Been best friends with this girl for like 7 years.. Anytime some boy broke her heart.. or had a bad day or just need someone to talk to.. she'd call me.. everytime i'd be there for her.. Did everything i could for her.. i mean the girl was like my sister. I had been with her through alot of shit. She was supposed to be going with a boyfriend someone over the weekend.. She got in a fight with him and wanted to go home.. They were 3 hours away.. She called me and i came and got her and she said was done with this asshole. well a few weeks later she gave him a second chance. I came over one day to see how she was doing and just chill. I pull up and all I hear is yelling and screaming. Next thing I know i see the door swing open shes running out the door. (neither one know im here yet) and he's right behind her and grabs her.. turns her around and slaps the shit out of her. I f*cking jumped out of my car and just knocked this shit out of the mother*ucker. I didn't give him time to do anything. I just knocked him straight in the jaw. Hit in the ribs, threw him to the ground and just started tearing into him. She was crying and yelling at me to stop.. and I couldn't i couldnt take seeing her get hit. Thankfully it was the first time. and now the last time.. Once she finally got me to stop I told the *ucker to stay away from her and he came back around I was going to whoop his ass again.
Sometimes you do what you have to do bro. For me there was no other option IMO

oh and get this.. one day i was heading over there.. it was me and some of my friends and her friends all just chilling over there.. Well apparently he followed me there with some buddies and tried to jump when I got there not knowing there were gonna be other people over there. Needless to say yet again he got his as$ whooped..

Do what you gotta do bro.. No one else is going to be able to tell u what to do or what not to do. Everyone is gonna have their own opinion and their own way of doing things. So you just gotta figure out what to do yourself.


bro this tool aint abusive "physically" thank god cuz id be in jail.... but the things he does to her and she just takes and takes, and takes takes takes etc!!!!! wtf ... Im like babe!!! u gotta snap outta this shit hes tearing u down and ur falling for it... put ur foot down and realize you dont deserve this!!! ok ok ok she says ... next week AHHHHHH SHIT /// ANOTHER CHANCE

bro this tool aint abusive "physically" thank god cuz id be in jail.... but the things he does to her and she just takes and takes, and takes takes takes etc!!!!! wtf ... Im like babe!!! u gotta snap outta this shit hes tearing u down and ur falling for it... put ur foot down and realize you dont deserve this!!! ok ok ok she says ... next week AHHHHHH SHIT /// ANOTHER CHANCE!!!!! WTF DO I DO!!!!! she is so hung up on this ugly tool fuck its driving me nuts!!!

[DRAMAQUEEN]

Bangin Caddy, on Feb 12 2009, 12:23 AM, said:

you seem like the stalker type.... obsessing over this chick you cant get cuz your buddy with her...

lmao


stalker type no.... like her yea .. exploit her .. never..... i WAS with her and if the time came again where i was single and could be yea..... i would be with her.. like so many in this thread dude ur missing the point.. its not about the girl .. its about how she s been treated ..... read the thread dick

[Mikesmith0890]

This same girl that i mentioned.. She seems to always pick the dumbshit boyfriends.. As far as mentally being abusive.. girls don't realize it.. they'll sit there and call you and whine about it.. but then they will let feelings get in the way.. sometimes it'll fade out eventually.. and sometimes the dumb*uck does something too damn stupid i.e. cheating and gets caught.

I know a buddy of mine set up some guy.. he had his cousin flirt with me and got it on cam and they guy started kissing on her and he showed the tape to the girl and that took care of it. but sometimes you just gotta wait it out

It's tough to sit there and watch it happen. Physically it aint gonna happen.. but mentally there's not often anything you can do about it. Just be there for her, make sure she knows she has a friend to rely on.. well theres always the ignore method and make her realize what life is like not having someone care and see what happens

[DRAMAQUEEN]

James, on Feb 12 2009, 12:25 AM, said:

she must like it, in all seriousness, its been going on a long time so my previous statement of she diserves what shes getting definetely applies here

i agree 100% ... yes she NEEDS that reality check.... but it sucks for you to watch a good friend go through a disaster everytime her BF is unhappy.... the worst thing about it .. is all she does is give give give , and if she slips in the slightest he makes her feel like a complete failure.. its really sad

[DRAMAQUEEN]

James, on Feb 12 2009, 12:30 AM, said:

in reality, you are comign on here like that considering you "have feelings"

yea i know... its a CA forum.. im gonna get post dumped on nomatter what

[DRAMAQUEEN]

Mikesmith0890, on Feb 12 2009, 12:30 AM, said:

Like i said in my post.. You just gotta do what you feel is right. People will bash you for doing one thing and others will bash you for doing another.. In the end it'll be up to you bro.

i know bro... just wondering what others would do, or if i was over reacting

[trainman0978]

What you fail to realize, maybe because you lack experience ( i mean that in a nice way ) in dating is that some girls like being treated like shit. They say they don't , but they end up being drawn towards guys like this dude you are wanting to confront. They say they want a good guy, or someone nice, but they cant stop themselves when it comes to being let down. just tell the girl you will be her friend, but not her shoulder to cry on or the guy she runs to every time they have a fight. She is just using you for that, and it is messing with your feelings and is unfair for her to do that to you. As long as you keep being there for her, she will keep using you , just like this guy uses her.

[DRAMAQUEEN]

trainman0978, on Feb 12 2009, 12:52 AM, said:

What you fail to realize, maybe because you lack experience ( i mean that in a nice way ) in dating is that some girls like being treated like shit. They say they don't , but they end up being drawn towards guys like this dude you are wanting to confront. They say they want a good guy, or someone nice, but they cant stop themselves when it comes to being let down. just tell the girl you will be her friend, but not her shoulder to cry on or the guy she runs to every time they have a fight. She is just using you for that, and it is messing with your feelings and is unfair for her to do that to you. As long as you keep being there for her, she will keep using you , just like this guy uses her.

exactly!!!!


so how do i still be there for her without having her take advantage of my dumbass or get her to think i dont care wheni do///... confusing topic

[trainman0978]

You tell her once. Get it all out there. Tell her everything, and also tell her because you feel this way, you cant stick around and watch her be hurt, and you are not going to continue to be the go-to guy when ever she needs a shoulder to cry on, and the be left standing there when she gets up and goes to another room to take his calls. You are her friend, not her dad, and not her brother. After that, let it go. You give in, just once, and you gotta start all over again. If you stay firm about this either she will see your side of it and quit putting you in this spot, or hate you for abandoning her. But dude, do what it best for you, and your feelings. That is what she is doing to you .....

think about it.

[zfrerichs]

why dont you just take his dog and tell him to stop or he wont get it back, looks like he is in love with the dog and sounds like he isnt really into your girl...

[Godsmack]

Dude three words


LOW SELF ESTEEM

[DRAMAQUEEN]

Godsmack, on Feb 12 2009, 07:14 AM, said:

Dude three words


LOW SELF ESTEEM

Exactly. I mean she's not ugly. She should realize she can do much better. Than him at least. But well take it day by day and see what happens and I'll step back a bit so she doesn't get the upper hand on me like he does her. Thanks again guys