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  12. Who has relationship advice?

    in Off Topic - Random, Misc posts - the forum "Junk Drawer"

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    I'll be honest, I'm really not a big fan of these woe is me my heart has a booboo threads, but here are my thoughts.

    If you were truly in the wrong, and realize it now, no more advice is needed. I would assume a wake up call like that would only magnify the issues needing address and now you have time, space, and motivation to make those changes. I've always been a firm believer that once the pain has lost its edge, so does the resolve to change it. Right now you're wanting to change to get her back...and once she is back your resolve to change what drove her off in the first place will dissipate and you are back to square 1. Change for you, change and become a better person because that is who YOU want to be. If it is genuine, she will see it. And actions have ALWAYS spoken louder than words. Nothing you say will change her mind, she needs to see the change and know that it has permanence.

    Also, if you truly loved her, truly did her wrong, and truly feel regrettable...then let her be. She may have the chance to find peace, or even her true happiness. But if its been a week, I almost want to say you haven't given it enough time or space. It is possible to overshine or drown a plant, its all about knowing balance, proper proportion, and need. Love is like a handful of sand. Yes, held too loosely it is gone with the wind. But clenched tightly it still finds its way lost on the wind. I hope you take the time needed to reflect on who you are as a person and as a man, and come to like the person you see in the mirror.

    I believe we are all exactly where we want to be. If you don't want to be a selfish ass, then don't be a selfish ass. If you want to be confident, no longer clingy, and with her again...then be it. Best of luck, and hope in some way you find inner peace.

    your not going to get better advice than this OP well said HT
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