well when i met my wife she had 2 kids. the oldes was 3 and the youngest was 1. neither one of their fathers was around. they never called, paid child support or came around period. not even there familes called or came around. my wife took care of everything by herself. well when we started dating i became attached to the kids real quick. we moved in together about 9 months after we started dating and over time the kids started to call me dad. i had no problem with that at all. i plan on being around for the long haul. well now the youngest(at the time) is 6 and the oldest is 10, we also have another who is 3 now. they all call me dad and no nothing else. the 10 year old knows i am not his biological father but doesnt question much. i have talked to my oldest about it and i think he gets it but hes still a little to young to fully understand.
My middle sons bilogical father was sent to jail the day he was born and has been in and out of jail many times since and as i said has made no attempt to be apart of his life. Well he called my wife today, got her number from my brother in law, and told her that he is going to court monday and that he is facing 60 years. he wasnt to see my son. Me and my wife both are kinda torn as what we should do. They are my kids and after 6 years of his father not being there i really dont feel like i should take him to see him. neither does my wife. but we also feel like we could be making a mistake. my wife is worried that he may try to hurt her because he hates me or that he may try to set her up and take our son. obviosly if she goes im going too, but that thought is still in her head. in no way am i hiding the fact that i am not his "real" father but at 6 i cant see the good in taking him around a stranger. what good could come of it? what might he plan on telling my son, that im not his dad. and then what....hes off to do his 60 years and not see him again, possibly forever. i strongly feel that there could be no good to come from this. we are pretty much set on not taking him but i just wanna know what you guys think. thanks for listening.