rocking.that.eclipse

A drunk killed my fiance in 2010, rear ended her on the freeway doing almost 140.  hit left rear corner.  he got convicted of 2nd degree murder, which was pretty landmark here in MI.  he's doing a minimum of 15 years for it.  All i can really say is the pain fades and dulls, but you never stop missing them.  I hope her fiance has a strong group of friends.  its the only thing that got me through the years that followed.  Dont be afraid to reach out, share something funny, try to help him do something normal and keep his mind off of it.  Dont, whatever you do, do what my fiance's aunt did the day after she died and tell him he'll find someone else.  he doesnt need, or want to hear that.  and maybe dont say "sorry for your loss" he's going to hear it too many times for it to mean anything.  just be a good friend and be there for him.

Sorry for the novel...

No dude I really appreciate it. I know that its going to be a rough couple weeks for him. They were both graduating from college in April and had the wedding set for May. I just can't even understand how anyone can make that kind of decision with their life that will end another persons life. I guess I'm a different person than most though. I haven't even been drunk in over 2 years. 

i was a pretty heavy drinker in my 20s, plenty of questionable moments.  luckily i got a dui at 25 and that really woke me up.  it wont just be a rough couple of weeks, sometimes people never get past it.  i hope hes a strong person, and has strong friends.  and if he doesnt, help him get into therapy.  it's so easy to fall down the rabbit hole and never come back after something like this.