Need some girl advice.

[bombout800]

Look bro.. honestly, they have their moments just like we do. They think of guys just like we think of girls. They want to fuck. They want to have fun. They want to party. But, all said and done.. they love a good time. They love what you love. And, that's to be treated like a human. They need respect just like you do. You don't want your girlfriend bitching at you or a bitch in general. They don't want it either. Some things are better left the same. Ole time shit really works. Opening doors, complimenting every chance you get, and doing what they want to for a change is normal. Honestly the note on the car thing is a old but good thing. Girls used to do it to me all the time. I never really thought anything of it at the time. Now looking back it was the shit. Girls notice the small things that we clearly miss. We all want our girl interested in what we do right? There always so girlie and never want to have fun. You gotta be on top of there stuff too. Everything works both ways. You have to show her that your interested in her. Not just her looks or how hard your gonna smash. Its ok to be emotional when you need to be and caring all the time.

DO NOT let anyone walk over you. IF you have a argument and you let her win all the time, so be it. But let her know what bothers you and why after the fight is over. If you did something apologize and let her know your willing to try your best to fix it. Just try your ass off. If she won't talk to you about the whole "US" thing. Try something simple. Like breakfast one morning or lunch. Breakfast is what you do with old people and family and FRIENDS. Hardly a date. Lunch is more of a friendly, hey i kinda like you thing. Get a bunch of people together on a dinner or a mall trip or whatever. Make sure she is invited. Always give her a out though. So something like, hey we're all gonna hang at _____ house tonight. Come if you want. I'll come get you if you'd like. If not, its okay, i just wanted to let you know your invited. Something simple. When she starts being nice and talking more about you two as a relationship, reward her. Tell her thank you. Write her a letter. Give her a rose. When she is nice, your nice. Just don't forget, when she is mean, your still nice. Sounds stupid right? It's totally stupid, but its life.

Also, they hate loving that your so nice when they are mad about something. Guess what? You do it for them though. Just talking lightly and calm while they're screaming!! Its great! Really though man, show interest in her and what she does. She will come through. I've been here so many times from my actions. But with the same few girls. I always get them back though. You have to want it. Show it in your performance, and don't get frustrated. Show her that you will give her space without being a total ass. IF she honestly cares about you she will come back. It may take a while, but be patient. If you need something hit me up man. My name at hotmail.com or aim bombout800. You get stuck in a situation just hit me up. IF i'm not on aim just leave a message. Sucks that this is happening, but shit happens. You live and learn! Goodluck bro!!

reason for edit:Holy Hell this was longer than expected!

[Baydestrian]

I was a jackass to my girl last year b/c drugs took over who I was and she kept saying she was losing feelings but drugs made me not try to work it out. Finally last Oct/Nov she started distancing herself more and more from me. I finally got off of the drugs and realizing how I had been treating her and shit. She called me yesterday and told me she was with some guy now for the past two weeks. Flipped my world upside down, I barely got any sleep.

Mean what you say and do what you say you are going to do...don't wait until its too late. I found out the hard way.

[t-money]

think back when u first started to fall for her. how u felt. then do for her now what u would have done then. like the sweet stuff u were talkin about. try to remember the little stuff she told u back in the day and try to come up with a way to show her u were listening and that she does mean alot to you. then after u get her back dont ever forget that she means the most to you. and stop fuckin up lol

[DCDL33]

X2 man i feel for you but like they have told you alredy keep working and never beg. Sorry but you still need to have your pride.

[Mellow18]

if she needs space make sure you give her some

fixed!

[shainemcconnell]

drank to much to give advice really, but "time is the cure for all things"...sometimes space is what they want but not what they need or sometimes space is what they need but not what they want. its a sticky situation and you can only do what you can do...the commitment to "change" is a tough one. do you want to watch what you say and how you act every moment? if you do great, no one is to stop you but yourself, once you get into certain habits it will be now problem.

whatever you do, though, remember the actions were your own choice and that whatever happens, happens, and you can not control the actions of others, but only adapt to them.

dunno if that makes much since or not.

[fritosaregood]

Some things that have worked for me are,

dont text, call, or talk to her for about a week, Unless she calls or texts you first. (she'll call eventually

or talk to another girl. I had a rough patch with an old gf and she saw me at work walkin with another girl and she just started cryin. Might seem mean, but if thats wat it takes to make her realize that she dont want any one to have you but her..you gotta do it

[mr.p]

Pics of girl?

[imfrom210texas]

IMO, if you're trying harder to be with her than she is with you, it's pointless. Now, you admitted you messed up, but when is she going to be satisfied? That's the game. My GF has lived with me for the last 4 years. I rushed into it, that's why she's a GF, not my wife. IMO, if you don't set the right foundation, it will all fall in the end. If there is another guy, It's 50/50 to me. I had this happen years ago... I've gotten word that she (an old ex) wants to "see how I'm doin", but I won't cuz of the current GF. To be honest I don't know what would've been better...me trying harder with the 1st ex, or now with my current GF. I'm about to be 27, and situations like these show you how time flies. I'd sit for a while and Think about "is this really THE 1 for you"?. Someone gave the advice of keeping busy. This is the BEST ADVICE for the situation IMO. Take your time, cuz what is a few weeks to let her figure it out, when the right decision could keep the both of you happy for life?? I just saw the last post, and it reminds me of an old SAVED BY THE BELL episode (pour on the CHEESE, I KNOW) moral: chicks don't know what they want, because we're all diff. Good Luck

[FritosGirl]

Girls REALLY DO love that old fashion stuff. My heart would melt if I got roses or notes, from anybody. Showing you care in all those little ways can make her smile and get her thinking about you.

Little things really do make some girls' hearts melt.