long distance relationship advice

[Keith77]

If shes already partying with dudes and being flirty then shes not considering your feelings much. Lots of vagina in the sea. Some can even do tricks. Since youre already long distance not like youll see her much.

LMFAO

[Mikey Bates]

Agree with the others. My two best friends just went through something similiar and not to bring it out there but there were both cheated one. one relationship was 4 years. and the other was 3 years. and one of the the girl was the nerest most non flirty, strait edge girl. but her friends convinced her to party and nuff said. Given your girlfriend is flirty, seems distant, and drinks and partys. Please don't let what happened to my friends happen to you.

[ToNasty]

It didnt work 2 times before? Like nate said, fuck anything that moves.

[Mikey Bates]

Also, if you hang breaking up over her head, see her reaction. if shes going to die without you then maybe it is worth it. But if she seems kinda upset but doesnt necessarily try and stop you. move on mutually.

[Nikitaaa]

Also, if you hang breaking up over her head, see her reaction. if shes going to die without you then maybe it is worth it. But if she seems kinda upset but doesnt necessarily try and stop you. move on mutually.

How should I go about doing this?

[Facekicker]

Own your own feelings, not hers. How she chooses to react to you is her decision.

Do whats best for YOU bro.

[S15_Silvia]

Yeah, been there. Fuck that noise. On to the next should be your only thought.

[Mikey Bates]

Also, if you hang breaking up over her head, see her reaction. if shes going to die without you then maybe it is worth it. But if she seems kinda upset but doesnt necessarily try and stop you. move on mutually.

How should I go about doing this?

Honestly thereis no right way. I am no expert by any means lol. But talk to her. Not through text! Maybe even skype or facetime to see her facial exprestions. Anyways, The first thing i am going to say is you need to prepare yourself for this talk. it may end up with breaking up with you or saying she did something you had no idea of or it may end well. Create a sticky note of talking points.this sounds dumb lol but i always for get things. itll let yu bring up some points with her talk about them. and proceed to the next point without forgetting about it. And also here is a good chance shes gonna pull the whole " How could you say that?! Were in college, am i not supposed to have fun?!?!?!" and shes gonna make you sound controlling Given what i just said. Tell her you wanna talk about something important. you can insure her its not bad just is important. but dont let it turn youto you telling her through text! Start with something like...."Ive noticed you seem to (blah blah blah) thats fine with me but i feel like ( blah blah blah) shell respond and possible go into defense mode. Stay calm, do not argue. if she defends something a lot move to the next point. Maybe talk about its affecting your relationship in whatever ways. You can also give her the option of parting you ways. as in if she says she wants t have fun and this and that you can say..." well do you feel like you still want to be in a relationship?" blah blah. you sorta get the jist. I dont know if this is helpful at all lol or complicated or sounds like dr phil stupid shit but idk i just saw my friends go through this like i said and it would be shitty to leave on 3 years but then again if would be shitty if something happend next year not on your end.

[Nikitaaa]

Well guys, I texted her this afternoon (couldnt call becuse we both had class)

I was afraid if I waited any longer I would chicken out..

I expressed to her all my feelings of how I didnt see our future plans so I didnt wanna spin my wheels in a pointless relationship..

I also told her about how I cant deal with her flirtatious attidude and she said this stuff:

"Nikita with a relationship you either want it or you don't. You are willing to fight and take the risk or you aren't. There is so in between.

And at this point it's easy to see you don't want it."

And:

"Nikita I can honestly tell you all of my feelings for you are the same as before I left. And I can say I really want this to work. It's just harder then to be the source or person of your unhappiness..

I just hate that we made it through two and a half years and now three months at college has killed us.I thought that when i was able to go home those few times and saw you we were good?"

I hooe I made the right decision guys... this is going to be a hard one to recover from but I think she took it well..

I also asked her to delete me from facebook so we couldnt stalk eachother but she refuses to do so so ill just let that be I guess..

Fuuuuuuck im scared for the future..

[mgameforever01]

I know how that feels I've dealt with this kind of stuff many time, ( multiple long deployments) and I said I would try but in the end it always turns out the same bad way, so many times I wish I would of just gave up and saved my breath and moved on from the beginning. I know its hard to take advice on this subject esp when you have feelings, it will hurt for a while but I promise it will get better and you will be much more happy in the long run.