PUNKYOU007 Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Damn man sorry to hear about this shit. Her trying to make it out to be your fault instead of manning up and saying hey I dont think we sholud be together anymore. Dont do anything crazy and try to hurt your self. Get a lawyer she has probably cheated which if your married is against the law. Maybe hire a p.i. to help your case Sorry to hear about all this. If you truly think she is cheating on take Loudintha509 and my advice....HIRE A PI! If you have to get a second job or take out a loan to pay for it, it will be worth it. I know three people whos wifes were cheating on them and eventually wanted divorce. All three of the women made these guys feel like they were doing everything wrong when it was just the women trying to cover for what THEY were doing. All three, with the help of a PI didnt loose shit in the divorce. That PI got so much dirt on them women. It was the same story for each on, them women thought because they were women they were gonna walk scott free and take what ever they wanted. Didnt fucking happen. Now I am not suggesting you do this to get back at her...I am suggesting this so you can protect yourself and so you can walk with a little bit of all that stuff you have been working for. At the bare minimum, talk to a lawyer and at least talk to a PI and see what they have to say. I know the best advice I can give is to play this out smart. If you cannot afford the house dont get stuck with it, give it to her, let it be her problem. You dont wanna be stuck in no place that will remind you of her ass anyway. Good luck with all this. Doethepaperboy "Bars of Pain" Doethepaperboy "Hero Remix" C. Arson d(-__-)b beer sucks...but i can bring some jose cuervo. Only problem is that it makes me horny and gives me the rams. So unless yall wanna fight and then have some great make up sex i will leave it home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanitarium Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Women are shit man.. it's just the way it is. They feel they need all this special romance novel shit, or grass is greener on the other side, whatever way you want to look at it. The fact of the matter is, you now have the best opportunity of your life ahead of you. When I found out my ex wife was cheating on me, i felt lost for a good month. Hell I didn't even know how to pay my bills as she had done it for the past 6 years. But I learned to get it all done. I taught myself to be a good cook. I taught myself to be fully self reliant. (i'm 5 hours drive away from any family at this point.) And then the greatest thing happened. I became happy with ME. Here it is a year later, (december 18, 2009 was when i kicked her to the curb) and I still don't have the urge to go "find someone new". I'm so damn happy being by myself and being self reliant that that little bit of companionship I once thought i needed, is fullfilled with a little smd and a great dog. If i want a little action, i got a few friends for that. But it's rare i call on those favors.. i just don't need it. I feel free now, and i wouldn't trade that for the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pervitizm Posted January 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Thanks for all the advice and kind words guys. You guys are indeed helpful in this troubling time in life for me. My mood is like a roller coaster ride. Tuesday and Wednesday I was pretty good, not too emotional about what was going on just pure anger and rage. Yesterday was nothing but an emotional out break. As if my manhood wall of tears finally broke. I spent a good part of yesterday morning crying my eyes out, constantly asking myself why I'm I being put through this. I feel a lot better today so far, but I know the day has only just begun and there's still another 20 or so hours left to go. I've been back on this thread a few times just re-reading some of the stuff I posted. I need to see how my emotions are playing out in words right now. I still don't think I'm ready to lay eyes on her now. Still don't know if those flood of emotions would allow me to maintain my level of calm. If I was a betting man I would def bet against it. I go see the lawyer today at 2pm. I have a copy of our last year taxes along with a copy of our current mortgage bill. I don't have bank statements cause I only have my own, she has three. One she has at the same bank as I do, one with the bank that has our home loan, and one with Chase (a shared savings account were both our money is in). I may need to get up and try to find out the information on the Chase account. 2007 Chevy Suburban LT1 Pioneer AVH 5700 DVD Diamond Audio D3 6 1/2 components Kicker 06ZX650.4 amp Kicker 06ZX2500.1 (x 2) DC Sound Lab Level 4 18's with Level 5 coils Autotek Mean Machine 400.1D (replaced) Soon to come: rims body kit flow master pipes Confuscious say "he who say it can't be done shouldn't be bothering man busy doing it" Now feel free to go crawl back under that rock and leave this to the professionals.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Superjay Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 clean out Chase... there is always the option to make her buy you out of the house. that usually means selling it to get the equity. Make for damned sure you stipulate that she owes penalties to early sale of home...this is her fault. There is also a chance you can get her for fraud, since she's pretty much known from the beginning how she feels, but has been hiding it from you all along. it doesn't matter that she's been hiding it from herself, too...just that she's been hiding it from you. If you come out of this owing her ANYTHING you got a bad lawyer who hates you...Missouri is a noncommunity property state...if you can't come to an agreement the court decides for you...if she has a 401(k) and you want half (and you should get half) but she won't budge on it the court will most likely give it to you. dig in your heals and make her pay for the las 10 years she stole from you Principal JTech Consulting - Leader in 12-Volt Training and Product PlanningIt's not about how much power you have, but how well you use it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaptainzPlanetz Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 had two friends in highschool they were brothers they're mom left them and they're dad to be with her girlfriend awkward part was she was our school buss driver but it seemed to end somewhat amicably. She should never have entered into a relationship with you. from the very first time she started having feelings as a child that were sexual in nature I'm 100% sure they were homosexual in nature but like a lot of gay people they try to stuff it and be normal and someone always gets hurt when they are not true to they're nature seen so many stories of it guy's that have kids and a house loving wife they leave it all cause they know they are gay and have been denying it for so long that they can't do it anymore but the wife gets hurt and the kids as well but as a society be condemn homosexual behavior so this happens alot as they strive to be normal when they know they can't. Your wife went about this in a shitty way and her actions of staying out all night and stuff like this is inexcusable she should have sat down with you and had an honest talk to you about what was goin on with her would have been better than the lying and deceitfulness just get a lawyer and try and protect your self hopefully things will smooth out and you can get over this and move on with your life Should of been a red flag ¿ǝɯɐƃ ǝɥʇ Trolls never learn............ All BS aside, If I see one more comment in here that is NOT about the pre-sale, I will start the vacations. And that includes the trolls feeding the trolls. YOU THE ONE THAT SOUND LIKE A OGER AND HUMPBACK/TROLLS? Add "SMDLIFER" on Xbox LIVE to play with other SMD members. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
30Hz.wav Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Some people have given the advice of hanging with your friends. I can vouch that worked for me. Whenever you finally get over her, NEVER look back. Good luck on the legal BS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iKidwell Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 clean out Chase... there is always the option to make her buy you out of the house. that usually means selling it to get the equity. Make for damned sure you stipulate that she owes penalties to early sale of home...this is her fault. There is also a chance you can get her for fraud, since she's pretty much known from the beginning how she feels, but has been hiding it from you all along. it doesn't matter that she's been hiding it from herself, too...just that she's been hiding it from you. If you come out of this owing her ANYTHING you got a bad lawyer who hates you...Missouri is a noncommunity property state...if you can't come to an agreement the court decides for you...if she has a 401(k) and you want half (and you should get half) but she won't budge on it the court will most likely give it to you. dig in your heals and make her pay for the las 10 years she stole from you just read through this whole thread again, and it seems like jay knows what he is talking about here. I'd follow what he says and get your moneyworth and kick the bitch to the curb. I'd stick her with the house and take any money that you possibly could so you end up on top financial wise. Even if she is makin more money than you, those student loans are gonna fuck her for a while. Enjoy a womanfree lifestyle, that's what my dad did when my mom divorced him..and he's the happiest he's ever been. c'mon now, if i was shooting an 8 year old, it wouldnt be MY 8 year old. i recently got a Pyle PL1590BL and i was building an enclosure for it tuned to 25 hz. i didn't have any tools to cut a circle so i hit it with a big hammer. 2003 Infiniti G35 Sport Sedan Build in Progress Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teambagboy1 Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 wow man im sorry to hear what happen i know what your going through i was married for over 9 years and she just packed up and left with out me knowing. you got to keep saying to your self you can do better and im a man and need to man up and stop crying. it will take you time to heal took me over 6 months but i still think of her and im married again. just try to relax no need to do something crazy over pu$sy there is other fish in the sea and you will find the right person to treat you right keep your chin up and dont let her fck up your life anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dunkoholic Posted January 21, 2011 Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Lets photoshop you with a bunch of woman just like we did with Bassboy69 http://www.stevemeadedesigns.com/board/topic/72117-can-anyone-photo-shop-a-girl-into-a-photo-for-me/ maybe that will get her jealous and come back to you The Project!! 1954 Trunk Build http://www.stevemeadedesigns.com/board/topic/102529-1954-chevy-belair-trunk-build/ ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The Daily!! Head Unit: Alpine 9883 Subwoofer: 2 12's DC Level 4 XL Amplifier: New DC 3.5 K Rear Center Console: 1 8' DD 1508 Amplifier: Rockford fosgate 500 Mids and Tweets: Beyma tweets e36 Trunk/Subwoofer Build http://www.stevemeadedesigns.com/board/ind...showtopic=27903 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pervitizm Posted January 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2011 Today's Rant. So today this bitch decides to text message me saying that she needs to come by the house to get some stuff that she needs. I told her not to come today cause I'm at home and I don't want to see her. She says when can she come, I said I don't know but now is not the time. I tell her to tell me what it is that she needs and I'll pack it up for her, leave it on the porch or drop it off to one of her friends so she could get it. She doesn't like that and said that she'll just come by with a police escort instead. This bitch tells me that she wants to go, tells me that she's gay. Walk out of this house three days ago with only two days worth of clothes, sexy toys and soap? What the fuck, if this was me should wouldn't want me around her at all. And I would have been man enough to know that after telling someone that deeply deeply loved me that I was not into them, that I was ending the marriage and that I was gay. I would have taken more than a few days worth of clothes. I would have taken damn near ever piece of clothing I owned out of that house. Why can't she just give me my space. Why must she continue to try and flex her long gone power over me. Why can't see just fucking be a decent human being and give me my fucking space? And my lawyer said that I couldn't get her alimony because are salaries are so close. 2007 Chevy Suburban LT1 Pioneer AVH 5700 DVD Diamond Audio D3 6 1/2 components Kicker 06ZX650.4 amp Kicker 06ZX2500.1 (x 2) DC Sound Lab Level 4 18's with Level 5 coils Autotek Mean Machine 400.1D (replaced) Soon to come: rims body kit flow master pipes Confuscious say "he who say it can't be done shouldn't be bothering man busy doing it" Now feel free to go crawl back under that rock and leave this to the professionals.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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