how to do it the right way (breakup advice)

[Fosgatefeind]

ok guys so I've been up all night thinking about where i am in life and looking towards my future and where i see myself with my girlfriend in the future. about the last 3 months i have been really bored with the relation ship and i feel as hough there is no excite ment any more except in the bed so to say. she stays at my place (my parents) about 2 times a week and i stay at hers (her parents) maybe 1 time a month. Shes 21 and I'm 19 just FYI. i feel like the times we do get to spend together is shes either bitching about some stupid shit or i had a rough day at work and just want to be home alone and relax. i works monday -friday 8-5. and have class from 6-10 every night except friday saturday and sunday. theres a lot of stupid shit im like afraid to tell her because she would bitch and moan and groan about it such as smoking cigarettes. ive been with this chick for over 3 years and i always told her i quit smoking. like 3 months after we dated. ive been smoking for the last 3 years never stopped. bought a vaporizor (she doesnt know that either) to try and quit for my own health and i kinda go back and forth between the two. i dont have any close friends except one and hes in australia for school till december and didnt really have any one to vent to. i dont hate the girl im just not happy in the relationship and i dont know how to break it to her. the real kicker is she has severe anxiety and I'm afraid that literally she would kill herself if i left her. she had a panic attack when she went to another state with her family because she wasnt around me. i guess what im asking is what would you guys do in my situation? i know ive done some wrong but please dont look at me as a shitty person for it

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[CstrokerV]

If it doesn't feel right leave or at least talk to her about all your concerns you put here and if she doesnt understand or gets pissed let her calm down talk to her again and if shes still not with the program then leave if your not happy in the situation why stay

and if your concern about her anxiety make sure she has her pills with her and some one to support her through that the anxiety isnt a reason to stay with her

[dfoland93]

Tell her what you just said here. Just try and find a good way and time to bring it up

[Fosgatefeind]

Tell her what you just said here. Just try and find a good way and time to bring it up

thats what i cant figure out. i dont want to be an ass about it. and theres never a good time because she always pissed or stress (high Anxiety)

[ChevyBoy95]

put it out on the table, and see how she reacts. dont just outright lead into a break up conversation, try and see if you can address what you stated here. if she responds positively, right on, if not, continue to the break up.

[LT.Smoke]

The best way to address it is to just be up front and honest... It may be hard but that is the best way... You dont have to be a dick about it but sugar coating it or beating around the bush will only make it tougher... Just lay it out to her nicely and then depending on how she responds you can move forward from there... Just my .02

[Kenyel Dotts]

Nah B go out of state and half way there put your foot in her back and kick as hard as you can. then peal off she will get the point LOL JK.

Nah I think the fellas have it down packed.

LT: got it rite keep it real or you will have a hard time trying to be happy.

sounds gay but communication is the key.

[SLAYER1805]

I had to do this the other day, I just didn't feel any excitement, I didn't feel a connection or anything anymore. I just plain out lost interest as well, you just have to keep it real with her. Its the best thing to do other than leading her on for months because you don't want to say something. My ex had anxiety problems as well but she took it alright because she was feeling the same (in a way)

[ROLEXrifleman]

Tell her how it is, straight up

Don't mince words, if it's over it's over. Don't put her in a position to misinterpret what you say.

Your 19, you have a lot of life to live yet and figure stuff out. Anyone who says they knew everything they wanted out of life at 19 can go suck a bag of dicks cause they are lying to themselves or brought up in a cult.

You need to be you, and along the way some hearts, including yours, will probably be broken. Better to break now while your single then later when you make a mistake and marry or worse yet have kids with someone who's not the right one.

Knock, Knock..... it's life at the door.... suck it up homo and do what you feel b4 what you feel crushes you.

[big dee]

If you have to ask this you need to go. Nice fast minimize the pain and don't fucking look back. Bottom line is life is way to short to be unhappy with some one. Plenty and I mean plenty of girls out there and trust me the right girls waiting to be fount . Good luck bro